What It’s Like To Be Pretty in Scuby's World

Being beautiful, pretty,charming,gorgeous and above all being a woman, a girl has some major benefits. I’ve definitely gotten a few favors I shouldn’t have by batting my big brown eyes If you’re funny and smart, people tend to think you are a legitimate genius – probably because people never have expectations for pretty people anyway – except to stay pretty.

It ain’t always easy, though.  People expect you to be an idiot, and when it turns out you have brains too, they tend to get freaked out. Prepare to get passed over for jobs with female hiring managers, and prepare for a string of jobs working for pervy male managers who gave you the job because they could see down your dress during the interview. Move to a bad neighborhood, and you better get a bodyguard or a boyfriend because the prison bodies down the street WILL say something inappropriate to you every chance they get. Something like, “Hey girl, you look like you taste sweet!” or “Dang, mama – lemme take a bite outta THAT!” “Can I be your sugar daddy?”My size, we are fitting kabisa as in super match or even just bark at you like a dog as they drive by (yes, all of these things really happen).

Nice guys will never, ever hit on you (presumably because they’re intimidated), but you will have more undateables flirting with you than you even thought existed. The #1 attempted pickup line will be, “Hey, are you a model?” which will embarrass you because A) obviously you’re not a model, and B) what are you supposed to say? “No, I’m not a model, I’m just NATURALLY GORGEOUS. SOAK IT UP.”

You will get so used to creepers creepin’ that it won’t faze you when the  station attendant tells you he won’t accept your money because his payment is watching you suck on one of the Blow Pops you like to buy before work. And once you get to work, you will be forced to play nice when men try to hold your hand over the counter and give you “business cards” that are very clearly just a phone number written on the back of a Rite-Aid receipt.On the flip side, you’ll get so used to this kind of attention that you’ll feel a misplaced sense of disappointment when you fail to attract catcalls from construction workers and garden-variety weirdos. You will also inevitably start to lean on your good looks in sticky situations, which will make you wholly unprepared to deal with the occasional hardass that doesn’t fall for pseudo-meaningful eye contact and flirty smiles. You are aware of this tendency, which gives you increasing levels of anxiety as you grow older and too broke to afford expensive skin-tightening cream lol. You will, at least once, have a minor meltdown over morning pillow face, hyperventilating in the mirror over the overnight appearance of fine lines.

You won’t have many girlfriends; that much should be obvious. And when you start dating someone, you’ll have to get rid of all your non-gay guy friends because your boo factor will assume they all want to date/fac you (which, to some extent, is probably true). On that note – be careful whom you choose to date, because years of only getting attention from losers with (excuse my pun) nothing to lose will do a number on your self-image.

When you go out, you always end up getting too messed up due to a combination of accepting too many free drinks from losers and drinking by yourself in the corner while your friends meet nice, college-educated guys with jobs. You take home a lot of gross guys out of boredom and loneliness. Your friends inevitably tire of taking you out because you end each night rolling around on the couch/bathroom floor clutching a bottle of CVS Chardonnay, crying “why don’t any cute boys LIKE ME??” while your friends roll their eyes because you got more attention from guys than anyone else.

Obviously I would rather be good-looking than average or even (gasp) unattractive, but once in a while it would be great if someone commented on something other than  appearance. “Wow, you’re so exotic, you should be a --- girl” sounds like a compliment.

Being all these nice things is pretty and sucking at times.

Shots

She is Just A Girl and she is On Fire

I was laying in bed last night, already snoring away, thinking about my 25th year and how fast it has flown by. As I add more years, the days move along quicker and quicker. Why is that? We don't necessarily get busier. We don't shorten the weeks and turn forward our clocks each day. My guess is we don't stop to enjoy the moment we're in enough, so life speeds on by and another year we grow older. Truth be told, 25 has been a great year for me. Harms and bad things happen but as I  write this; non of those is ringing loud in my memory. 25 has been beautiful for reasons I've held onto in the quiet of my mind.

 So here I am today living the last days of 25 feeling beautiful inside and out. Above all I am so grateful to the Almighty God ,Family and the gift of wonderful friends.They make life so meaningful and worthwhile. 

I am turning 26 next Tuesday..

Here is a list of 26 life lessons I have learned thus far at the age of 25.  I pass this list on to you with the simple hope that it makes you think.  Sometimes thinking about your life and sorting out what you have learned is just as important as tackling a new venture.

1. Being an adult can be fun when you are acting like a child.
2. Love has nothing to do with looks, but everything to do with time, trust, and interest.
3. Laughing, crying, joy and anger… All are a vital.  All make us human.
4. The greatest truths in life are uncovered with simple, steady awareness.
5. Greed will bury even the lucky eventually.
6. Bad things do happen to good people.
7. Paving your own road is intelligent only if nobody has gone exactly where you are going.
8. Uncertainty is caused by a lack of knowledge.  Hesitation is the product of fear.
9. Time heals all wounds… regardless of how you feel right now.
10. Most of the time what you are looking for is right in front of you.
11. Your health is your life.
12. Chance is a gift, so act on chance when given the opportunity.
13. Kindness and hard work will take you further than intelligence.
14. People deserve a second chance, but not a third.
15. Marry your best friend.
16. Take lots of pictures.  Someday you’ll be really glad you did.
17. Money makes life easier only when the money is yours free and clear.
18. Carelessness is the root of failure
19. Your actions now create memories you will reminisce and talk about in your elder years.
20. Stepping outside of your comfort zone will put things into perspective from an angle you can’t grasp now.
21. Motivation comes in short bursts.  Act while it’s hot.
22. Purposely ignoring the obvious is like walking backwards toward the enemy.
23. Taking ownership of failure builds the foundation for success.
24. First impressions are completely worthless 50% of the time.
25. Personal glory lasts forever.
26. If you never act, you will never know for sure.

 There are very few times I use this blog as a personal sounding board.

When the Skin Detests H20

 

 Surviving a cold shower in this chilly week .Oops I have actually fallen a victim to this. Details watch out.


Oh did I mention that the shower is 5 minutes long?  Yep.  5 minutes are just enough for me in the bathroom.


Let me tell you how I get through those 5 minutes now that I'm becoming a bit of a cold shower therapy professional lol , but these 3 past days have tested my patience on the combo of this chilly weather and the cold shower

1.  I usually get up around 5 15am.  
2. I set the timer for 6 minutes (Why 6 minutes?  Well because it usually takes about a minute to psych myself up to get in the tab.
3.  I get in,and start thinking about it
4. Then.  I scream.  
5. (*Note - for these 3 days I just stood there, like an idiot in the cold water, and then I got smart.  Time went by much faster if I were doing something, so I started washing my hands and feet in cold water)
6.   Once my hands and feet are washed, which usually takes a good 2 minutes, then...I take a deep breath, as deep as I can; given I am having trouble catching my breath, and I turn around.
7.   I move to my chest.  Oh My GOD! Once the chest is well saturated with the cold water. It's almost painful it's so cold.
8.   Then I rinse and cleanse my face. Oh yes.  I do.  
9. I take care of the business of the rest of the body, and then I start to pray a little bit.  Almost exactly the same way every day.  Almost pleading, "Please God, be over...be over...is it over?  Please.  God.  Be over."  And then..suddenly the timer goes off.

I am a cold shower friek but it had never been this hard like the past 3 days of my life.   BUT...I have my cold shower for 5 minutes every single day...for the past 25 years.

This last 3 days have tested my Ninja powers, but starting today I am back on my cold shower life time therapy. 

PS: I don't wanna do lukewarm showers I cherish the cold one more.

xx

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Love Your Body, Even If It's Shaped Like A Brick

I'm definitely rocking the PEAR,. I guess I'm lucky that the weight I've added in the past 5 years has proportioned itself pretty well all over. I feel so much better about the ice cream I just ate now too, Mocha Almond, yummmmmm!

But don't go crying because you're a BRICK when you'd rather be a Vase... Today is the talk you have to look in the mirror and smile. Because today is THE LOVE YOUR BODY TALK The Embrace and love your body including having ice cream, doing some yoga, listening to positive music and having safe sex.

For all the ladies out there.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Are you Dying to Look Fashionable?

Obesity is unhealthy, but anorexia is a killer too. And it is never a good idea for young people to go into starvation mode just to fit in and look fashionable. It can do more than make you weak, it can even kill you.

For many youngsters, fashion is like a mirror and it isn’t surprising that many young women today want to be stick-thin. They try to imitate movie celebrities and models they see on the ramps of fashion week. For years, the fashion brigade has peddled an unrealistic image of women as the epitome of feminine perfection. Thin was in. With time, it deteriorated to rail-thin and then to the anorexia chic. 

 

The Wake Up Call
Then came a wakeup call and the world realized that thin wasn’t all that right. A revolution of sorts occurred a few years ago when the organizers of the Madrid Fashion Week turned away underweight models. The widespread concern about girls and young women trying to ape the anorexic look and developing eating disorders to attain the look of the excessively thin models themselves finally reached a climax. With this line of thinking, there should actually be a collective sigh of relief among models and youngsters. The fashion industry is responsible for projecting an image of beauty and health, rather than the “crack chick” look. Young women need role models who look like real women and not like moving cloth hangers on the ramp.

Hate your Body?
It is tragic that in today’s world, the promotion of thin as the ideal has created a situation where the majority of girls and women don’t like the look of their healthy bodies. Body dissatisfaction has led girls to practice unhealthy behaviors to try to control weight gain. Semi-starvation and excessive physical activity will result in deficiencies of vital vitamins and minerals.
Infections, skin conditions, poor wound healing, low blood pressure, muscle wastage, heart problems, kidney damage and thinning of the hair on the scalp are just a few of the ill-effects. Excessive hair growth on the body, exhaustion, emotional fragility, depression, lack of energy and lethargy due to the low-energy content of their diet are some of the definite consequences.

The Negative Side of Diets
A low calorie diet usually leads to weight gain, rather than weight loss. Initially there could be a rapid weight loss, but the body then starts to slow down in order to conserve calories. Up to fifty percent of the weight that is lost is not fat, but lean muscle tissue because the body starts burning up its own muscles, as the fat tissue requires fewer calories to maintain than muscle tissue. The body thus ends up retaining more fat and burning more muscle as this is a natural defense mechanism designed to overcome the effects of a food shortage.
A very low calorie diet of less than 1000 calories can lead to serious nutritional deficiencies, involving extreme tiredness, bone weakness, skin and hair problems, as well as hormonal problems. One of the reasons that adults experience weight problems and ill health is because they follow drastic or unhealthy weight loss diets during their younger years. Dieting to reduce weight is not recommended until body growth, including all the internal physical development, has ceased, which usually happens around the age of 18.

Lose Weight the Healthy Way
If you’re fixed on losing weight, a wiser option would be to maintain a balanced, low-fat diet that provides sufficient energy through carbohydrates and all the protective vitamins, minerals, trace elements, essential fatty acids and bioflavonoids. A healthy daily diet should consist of a wide variety of foods providing your body with different nutritional contributions. Choose a variety of foods from the main food groups, fruits, vegetables, grains, lean meats and dairy products. The thumb rule being, foods high in complex carbohydrates, fibers, vitamins and minerals but low in fat and free of cholesterol. These should make up the bulk of the calories consumed. A healthy diet doesn’t mean depriving yourself of higher-calorific foods like ice cream, toffee, popcorn and cheeseburgers. You can enjoy these but in moderation or as occasional treats.
A sensible slimming program would be to eat six small meals. Eat in moderation once every two hours and do not skip meals. Exercise regularly and adopt weight training. And also, keep in mind that all of us have our limitations. Get realistic. Be healthy and fit instead of waif thin and sick. Our body shape is predetermined. Each one of us is one of a kind. You are your best model.

Staying in shape is a good thing, but suffering and killing yourself slowly just to look fashionably-in for a few years of your lifetime is just not worth the chance.

LIFE IS A SURPRISE

I’ve heard a saying, that “life is a surprise”. Call me a sceptic, but I generally scoff at lines that scream something that leaves us expecting so much.His short love story may be short on words, but it’s a story that’s filled every thought and day of his existence with happiness.Is a guy, a 26 year old guy who works in a job he likes. A guy who hangs out with his friends when the sun goes down, and one who, when the story begins, is still single.
Is single, not because he wants to be single.
He  thinks it’s weird to be single. Or maybe that’s what all guys think.

Sabstian is  just a guy who’s been looking high and low for that girl who can make things happen inside him.You know, your heart stops beating just for a second, your throat goes dry, you get gooseflesh, feel a bit dizzy, and the works.He hasn't experienced that. Most of his  friends haven’t experienced that too, but they’re all going out with someone. According to them, such things happen only when you’re suffering from a high temperature.

Short love stories and  life
The story of Sabstian falling madly in love didn’t actually go as he had expected. His throat never got dry, ever. But then, he liked a girl. Of course, it wasn’t ‘love’.Actually speaking, it wasn’t even ‘like’. As a matter of fact, He had  no idea what he felt. He spends his evenings at a café, next to a huge television display they’ve now acquired, and whether he likes it or not, he ends up spending his time staring at it. And it bloody hell annoys him! Can’t they just junk it?Well, and just like him, there was this cute girl who would come to the same café, and stare at the same display every day. Well, sometimes she read a book.Or sometimes, she used to light a cigarette and look at her fumes take shape, and then disappear into non-existence. She was fascinating and pretty. But there was one difference between both of them. Sabastian came to the café with a couple of friends. She came alone. He had  never seen any girl do that. Who has?

Love stories and stolen glances
They used to glance across each other now and then, but there was nothing more. No jolt.  No sweat. No knots in his stomach.The days turned to weeks, and weeks turned to a couple of months. That’s a long time once you picture the scene outside the world of literature. Long, long ago seems so cute in a book, but an hour in a suffocating conference hall? Murder! Without actually knowing it, he was attracted to this girl. he actually admired her, and her calm, comfortable, cool as a cat persona that she brought along for company every day. Could it be love?And then, he started the staring game. He stared at her now and then, discreetly, but in a way she knew he was glancing at her. But no deal. She just wasn’t bothered. Ouch! His ego was crushed.

A rainy evening – The perfect setting for short love stories
One evening, it rained cats and dogs, and a few frogs and fishes too. Sab was in the café, she walked in with an umbrella. The place was packed, and there was one seat that was empty. That was facing his table. He had half a mind to get up and call her over, but before he could make up his  mind and inflate his courage, she walked to a corner table that just got cleared.An hour later, it was still raining. In the midst of all that rain and thunder, he contemplated and coined her name, “The Lonely Girl”. The Lonely Girl had walked out a few minutes before he decided to leave. When he  got outside the café, he saw her standing by the sidewalk, waiting. he walked up to her quickly, and before he knew it he had asked her if he  could drop her to her place. As it was raining, he added.She didn’t smile, she just looked at him, turned around and walked away in the rain! Under her umbrella.His friends laughed at him. Yep, it was completely embarrassing. Even the bum on the street held back a grin. He hadn’t even heard the Lonely Girl’s voice. Pathetic, he says. The next day he saw her at the café, she was sitting by herself. Perhaps she was Calvin or a Noami.He was invisible. Her smoke rings were fascinating her. She couldn’t even leave good smoke rings, what was the deal with staring at it? This happened everyday for a month.

Night out clubbing – The second chance in Sab's love story
On another great day, he was out at a club. And wonders of wonders! She was there, with a few girl pals. Perhaps it was fate. He looked at her, she saw him and then she looked away. He walked through the crowd of dancing drunks and walked right towards her. He walked up and wanted to speak to her.She saw him and flashed a big grin. He was shocked.He was numb. He didn’t know her mouth could move that way! And before he could think of anything, she grasped her friend’s hand and walked away to the ladies room! And he didn’t see her again that night. But he couldn’t stop thinking about her for hours after that. Perhaps even days. Because she didn’t show up at the café the next day, and many days after that. That was shocking. He started wondering if she had changed her hideout because he  was stalking her.

Romantic persuasions
Two whole weeks later, he walked into the café and there she was, all radiant and bright. Gosh,he had missed her! he sat down at a table a few tables away from her. he knew he wanted to talk to her. And thank God, the café was quite empty. It was a bit too early for the horde of coffee addicts to make their entrance.He waited until her coffee arrived. And then,he waited for her bill. When her bill was on the table, he walked up to her. His throat was lumpy and tight. Each step he took only made his walk to her feel further away. But he walked on. The café was empty. No harm.He could always change his hangout if she slaps him. What was he thinking, dammit!

Sab;                 “Hey, you can’t run away from me today. You’ve got to get your check”, I quirked.
Noam/Calvin; “What?” she exclaimed before she realized she actually replied.
Sab;                 “I said you can’t just avoid me like this, you know…”
Noam/Calvin;  “What are you talking about?”
Sab;                  “Can I sit down with you?”
Naom/Calvin;  “No, you can’t.”
Sab;                  “Oww… c’mon, just for a minute, okay?”
Noami/Calvin:  “No”

She took out her wallet, and wanted to dart. He couldn’t help getting mesmerized by her voice, but there were more pressing things at hand. He had to talk to her.To cut a long jittery conversation short, he convinced her to talk to him for a few minutes. And that’s when everything started breezing through. They started talking, and the minutes stretched on at a really fast pace. He got to know so much about her, and he also got to know that she had a great sense of humor. They had a great time talking to each other, and soon, she said she had to go, as it was getting late for her.They  exchanged numbers and he asked her if they could “bump in” again tomorrow. She just smiled and walked away. Sigh! It was bliss. As he stared at her walk away, his eyes were distracted by an alphabet bracelet she had forgotten behind.  It said “life is a surprise”. Wow! Maybe that was true.He slipped the bracelet into his pocket.

Feeling the love at night
He lay awake that night and he stared at her number on his cell phone. He  wanted to call her, but settled for a text. The very minute he texted her, he got a call from her. She too was contemplating over whether or not to message him. Sweet!They spoke and spoke until the wee hours of the morning, and he just wanted to see her again that evening. They met again at the café and it felt so good. She was smiling the whole time and they were actually flirting back and forth.he asked her out for a movie that evening.All of a sudden, she looked offended. She declined. And then, there was silence. That calm, deadly silence that makes you feel worse than getting yelled at. He asked her what was wrong, but she didn’t mention it, and their “date” was cut short that evening. He got home and looked at her bracelet. “Life is a surprise”. Simple words can be a confusing affair at times.

Rekindling His love story
That night,he called her again and they spoke. At first she was distant, but she seemed fine after a while, and then he  asked her why she got so offended in the café. She didn’t tell at first, but as the hours went by, she told him that she hated guys and the worst thing she ever wanted to do was go out on a date with a guy.Apparently, she had been hurt one too many times by guys whom she trusted with all her heart. They spoke until five in the morning, and she told him a lot more. He just wanted to hug her, but even the thought of giving her a telephonic hug scared him. But they decided to meet again. Same bat place, same bat time.They started hanging out together all the time after that. At times,he picked her up from her workplace, and at other times, he dropped her back home. Soon, weeks turned into months, and this time, everything felt just like a fairytale.
Time stood still when it was just the two of them. One evening, when they  met up and went to the café, it was too crowded for space, so they decided to go for a drive to while away the time. It was a long drive, and somewhere along the way, the sun was shining mildly at them, it was a huge red ball that made the whole world around them glow. It was the most romantic sight, or maybe he had never noticed the sun at that time of the day. Nevertheless, it was beautiful.She said the sun was beautiful. He said it couldn’t be compared to her. She smiled.He  smiled. He clasped her hand. It felt tense. And then, they  locked eyes. Thank God, the road was deserted. And then, her lips split into a girlish grin that he still can’t forget. That was the moment. It was indeed beautiful. He felt warm and fuzzy. And he wanted the drive to last forever. The got to her place, and he hugged her goodbye. That was the first time he ever hugged her. As they hugged, he knew she didn’t want to let go. Neither did he.

A short love story that lasts a lifetime
The next evening, they went to the café. They sat next to each other for the first time. And they held hands. They spoke less, and smiled more. He told her that he liked her. She smiled a lot more. And then, she punched him in the arm, and said that she liked him too. And just then, Sabstian slipped her bracelet out from his  pocket. “Life is a surprise”.He couldn’t agree with that more.He smiled. She saw her bracelet. And she laughed. That tinkling, sweet laugh that is so intoxicating. He was a happy boy with the perfect present, all over again. And she was a happy, lonely girl. Just lonely no more.

 life is a surprise! Simple Words that can be a confusing affair in moments of life.

Money Vs Sex

I am going to focus a piece I found very  interesting courtesy of CNN about money and sex . This article raises the question “What makes you happier sex or money?”.

In a Prince & Associates survey of all the multimillionaires (including Mitt Romney) in the world, 70% said wealth gave them “better sex”. The article did not specify if they were comparing the sex that they had when they were poor to sex they have now, or if they just think they have better sex than the rest of the 99%. What about most multimillionaires who are born into their extensive wealth? I find this a bit of a broad statement to be making in a survey, as it’s hard to quantify. Not surprising: The men taking this survey said “better” sex =more sex with more partners. P.S. CNN- that’s not an exclusively “rich guy” thing.
I get that having bundles of cash means you don’t have to worry about the same things that keep most of us awake at nights; freeing you to have more energy and drive for sexual romping. It has been proven that women who experience stress have a lower libido, but that still doesn’t mean you can’t crank out a great orgasm every now and then just because you are poor. It’s Maslow’s heirarchy for sure, but the article also contests that having more money for things like fancy trips, champagne, and expensive toys can increase pleasure.

Maslow’s Heirarchy. AKA: Why you don’t feel like “doing it”.

My thoughts on Money and Sex

What made me yell out “OH COME ON!” as I was reading was the paragraph about how women who have sex with rich men experience better orgasms. According to the survey, when a man’s net worth increased so did the frequency of their female partner’s orgasms. What was the control factor for this? If a wealthy man is banging a not so wealthy girl how do we know she wasn’t lying about her orgasms? Wouldn’t she say anything to get her hands on that paper? They follow this with how infidelity exponentially increases with net worth—proving my point that the people taking the survey might already be experienced in the the art of fibbing. Still, the article asserts female orgasms might increase with wealthier partners as an evolutionary mechanism for women to find “stable” partners who will be able to care for their needs.
What I’m hearing is…much like the Lucky Charms leprechaun, my clitoris can now detect gold. I only have to tell the lucky gent my legends of the hidden temple to establish the true pauper from the prince!

The second half of the article gets much better, in my opinion, when they cite another study done at Dartmouth with 16,000 of us 99 percent-ers. Findings are in: the more sex you have, the happier you are. How happy? The equivalent of having $50,000.00 more per year. (Before or after taxes is what I wanna know…) Another thing I was surprised to learn-sex has been proven to make you better at your job. So more sex = wealth and happiness. This can lead you to become a millionaire and then you really get to enjoy the freaky! It is a self-fulfilling prophecy!
Jokes aside, I don’t think this article is without merit and I found it enjoyable and interesting. The article gives some sound advice for those couples who aren’t lucky enough to be fabulously wealthy; treat your relationships with the same care as you would treat your money. I’m happy to learn there is now scientific proof love indeed nourishes way more than money ever could. And for those of you fighting your way out of debt or working with a really tight budget-just have more sex with your spouse/partner. Aside from being the cheapest thing to do on a Saturday night, it’s now proven to make you feel richer, instantly.

What do you think about these findings on the connection between Money and Sex?

Vanity Fair

 I have been up to volumes. Among the pictures below, I have a full made up face Lipstick,Concealer, blush,foundation,powder,eye liner,mascara you name it. I loved the made up me,but in the  beginning i felt so strange with all these make layers caked on my skin. It wasn't breathing, but at the same time it was amazing. The pictures told another story from the feeling.

 There is a contrast in the pictures.

xx

Men Who Stare at Women

Chaps are naturally drawn to people they have never seen before while women prefer familiar male faces, a study reveals.Men were shown pairs of photographs of women and asked to rate their attractiveness .When photos were produced for a second time alongside previously unseen images, they were distracted by the new women and tended to lower their rating of the original ones.If that makes man sound stupid, women should not scoff too loudly because the same applied to them in reverse, with the ratings increasing the second time around.The preferences developed because early man stood a better chance of reproducing if he slept with many partners while pre-historic women were more likely to survive with a trustworthy provider, the researchers suggest.

 Staring at women is a fun hobby for most men, but seriously, what is it with men who stare at women?What’s the real reason behind why men stare at women?Each time a woman walks past, most men just can’t stop staring at her.A few men may be discreet, while a few perverts may go “strip mode”, but either ways, men who stare at women incessantly are just no good.

Understanding why men stare at women
But then, when men stare at women and the women don’t like it nor do they glance back, I really don’t think that qualifies for a flirtatious stare exchange.
But either ways, I don’t know what that stare could be called, so let’s just call it ‘the Stare’!

Men who stare at women and the way they think
So why do men stare at women really? First off, men stare because their eyes need action. Secondly, because they want to. Thirdly, because they can! However much it pisses off a woman, men stare at women and will continue to do so. Most men who have understood the fact that we live in the 21st century don’t stare hard at women, but men who haven’t yet figured that they’re way past the Stone Age still stare at women like they’re getting set for a mating ritual.
It’s those men you see, men who stare at women with such intensity that women would be confused whether the guy’s constipating or just trying to fart real bad. Now that’s the guy who has ‘the stare’ in his eyes. And that’s the guy you’ve got to have in your blind spot.

 Why do men stare at women instead of talking?
It’s all in the head, you see. When the man was still a boy, most other bigger boys and men told him that it’s not easy to talk with woman. The big men say this to cover up their own shortcomings with women. The smaller boys use this as an excuse to squirm out of making a move on a girl.
The point here is, the first thing that pops into a man’s mind when he wants to approach a woman is, “Will she insult me?” And with that one thought, a drum beat starts drumming away inside his head. And it just gets worse, as he gets closer to starting a conversation with a woman.
Most men hate that feeling of getting spurned by a woman, and they definitely hate that drumbeat that’s their heart as they approach women. So they just sit back and stare at women. It’s the next best alternative for a loser of a guy who’s so sure he’d be spurned if he’d ever make a move. So he just sits back, and devours as much of you as he possibly can without making himself feel uncomfortable. These guys are just losers anyways, and they’re the ones who end up with goats or animals to give them company in bed, unless one of the women he stares at, finds it exciting and falls right into his arms.

Do men stare at all women?
All women. Definitely. Most women think men stare only at beautiful girls, petite girls, or girls with breasts that fill their shirts really well, but men who use ‘the stare’ don’t really give a damn. They just want attention back.They want to stare right at you, and hope you’ll stare back. Of course, you’re going to be curious at first and give him a few glances out of curiosity. But these men take these little innocent glances as a sign of triumph. They think they’re on stage two of hooking up, now that they’re past the ‘stare, watch, and wait for reciprocation’ stage, and they try giving women that creepy smile along with ‘the stare’. This is when you’d feel like throwing up all over his annoying face.

Men who stare at women know you won’t really do anything about it, so they continue staring at women wherever they are. It’s annoying, but at least now you know why men stare at women.
But do you want to know how to piss the men who stare at women off, or what men really imagine when they stare?

Make Life Happen

Have you ever woken up and thought, “This cannot be my life?” Dragging yourself to a job you hate. Working all day for what seems like mere pennies in your pocket. Ultimately living to work, working to survive.If so, I feel your pain. I recently went under construction in my own life. Long story short: Hated what I was doing.

No time to do anything I wanted or dreamed of doing. Basically, my morning mantra was please, not another day of this. So I decided to revamp everything. Changed everything about my life. Sacrificed a lot to move ahead and create a more positive, mentally healthy life.Bottom line, I wanted to make some stuff happen! What stuff? Still figuring that out. LOL

In order to create a new life, it’s a must. In fact, because my new plan of action, which you’ll learn for yourself  with time , I’ve been making things happen.

It’s God shinning through me

God is shining through me. Loving it.