Monday, April 28, 2014

Money, Love and Happiness


Most people have always said that money can’t buy happiness. But is that really true? In reality, of course, money can buy happiness, especially when it comes to love! By Jessica Dawson

Well, before we go any further at all, let me make this clear.Contrary to what greybeard the philosopher says, money can buy happiness, at least in love.And quite frankly, that’s all that matters, isn’t it?

Well, before we go any further at all, let me make this clear.Contrary to what greybeard the philosopher says, money can buy happiness, at least in love.And quite frankly, that’s all that matters, isn’t it?
Money, love and happiness
If you’re happy in love, you’re all happy in life. So there we go, money can buy you all the happiness in the world.So what’s love really got to do with fat wallets, or big diamond studded rings?Perhaps nothing at all.
But logically speaking, when we first like a person, the infatuation is completely based on the appearance and the so called ‘personality’.We like spending time with this special person and we like doing things together, and hanging out all the time.
Money, happiness and the silence
No one ever talks about money, mortgages or insurances in young love.And even if someone does, it’s followed by an awkward pause and a little shuffle of a leg, and the whole conversation is brushed away under the carpet, where all other unspeakable things are stashed away.Let’s face it, no one really talks about money in love, and yet, we want better jobs, better homes to live in and luxurious vrooming cars to drive around in. If everything in our lives revolve around money, why not in love?

The conflict – Money can / can’t buy happiness in love
It’s all in the movies, isn’t it? That’s what the problem with us is. We see the manly dudes and the damsels on screen, mesmerizing us in tear jerking scenes, where the guy says something like “I can’t marry you, Jocelyn… blah, blah and more blah! Where will we live? In my hovel? With the pigs inside during the winter so they won’t freeze? And the babe answers something like, “Yes, William, with the pigs…”That was a line from the movie, ‘the knight’s tale’ in case you’re wondering.But what about the movie ‘the pursuit of happyness’, doesn’t Gardner’s wife leave him because he doesn’t make enough dough? It’s all clich├ęd and over-exaggerated, the value of money in love, and vice versa.

Money, happiness and the stages in love
I’m trying my best not to sound like a money mongering tramp here, but to a certain extent, yup, it’s true. Money is the catalyst in the whole chemical reaction of the fabled ‘…happily ever after’.
Without money too, you can peak your levels of happiness, but somehow, it may just turn out to be more difficult than you think. Now if I want to hook up with a guy, it’s all about a good balance. There are a lot of criteria that matters when we need the perfect guy, or girl. For us, the most important criteria are split into three stages. And to others who don’t know about the existence of these stages, it’s time to be enlightened because whether you like it or not, we all follow the same stages in love, knowingly or unknowingly.

Stage 1 – Looks and personality
These qualities are impressive during the initial stages of the relationship, when both of you are still fresh with each other and are craving to know more. It may last a few good days, or you may pull this game along for a couple of months. During this stage, you don’t spend too much time together and when you’re together, it’s just about being nice to each other. In this phase, you show your new mating potential off, and seek approval from friends, and consider the person yourself.
Stage 2 – Shared interests, niceness and fanciness
If you think your mate’s good enough or at least fits into your requirement to move up from stage 1, it’s time to brace yourself for this stage. Couples experience this stage after they’ve crossed the barrier of kisses, and a bit more, or perhaps, even if they go all the way.It’s that stage of love when the fresh citrusy flavor of love changes into a deeper fragrance of understanding and sharing. Here, it’s all about each other’s interests, figuring if your dating potential has the charisma and the fanciness to woo you into love every day.

Stage 3  - Wealth, emotional support, sex
This stage begins with a live in relationship, or matrimony, or something along those lines. If both of you get through the earlier stages of dating and falling in love, it’s great because you’ve booted most of your harder difficulties that break relationships. Out here, it’s the touchy details that people squirm to talk about that crop up, just like weeds in Bree Van de Kamp’s garden.Stuff like boring bed lives, poor hygiene, differences in sexual appetites, and emotional support fall here. And in this stage, along with all the other coveted high fliers of misfortune, stands the tallest of them all. Wealth, a.k.a. Bling Bling!So whether you’re ready to accept it or not, wealth is going to play a big part in the game of love. And as long as you have enough of it, money can buy happiness and oh-so-much-more!


I’m not saying you wouldn’t be able to cope up and live happily if you don’t fit in with all criteria in the stages, but things are just going to be harder. And a lot more depressing.

But the three stages on love are really the least of your problems. There’s so much more that money can do to love. And they just reaffirm the undeniable truth that money can buy happiness in love like never before!

The most Valuable Gifts are for Free. I do Believe in this Saying: BUT most times money is a catalyst through this priceless gifts of life .

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Hanging Around the Lake

 This Easter Break  sucked at one of the days and it still brightened up most of the days. Seeing new living things like water and rowdy people breathes a new life into me. Here Am I eating happy at the shores of Lake Victoria.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014


Kazini DAily Awards 

The nominated me for the Sunshine and Shine on Award. I am so blown away and feeling the excitos killing me.I didn't see this coming. I am humbled Rosyln thank you .

Rules to the Sunshine Award:

  • Use the logo below in the post.
  • Link to whoever nominated you.
  • Write ten pieces of information about yourself.
  • Nominate ten fellow bloggers “who positively and creatively inspire others in the blogsphere.”

Sunshine Award: 10 Random Facts About Me:

  1. I love water-aka swimming
  2. I have 30 teeth
  3. My eye brows aren't equal
  4. I  love erotic stories and movies
  5. Sometimes I think I am not fully human
  6. I don't remember being young
  7. I Google Random things.
  8. I have a crush on an actor but he doesn't know my name
  9. I missed a shower last week
  10. Reading books and random articles

The Bloggers I would love to nominate are:


Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Sleeping Position Vs Strength of Relationship

How the position you sleep in with your partner reveals the strength of the relationship

  • Partners who sleep an inch or less apart are happier than those who don't
  • Around 42% of couples sleep back to back while just 4% face each other
  • Couples who sleep face to face while touching were the happiest
Are you someone who likes to cuddle up against your partner at night? Or do you tend to wake on the other side of the bed, facing the wall?New research shows that the position in which we sleep is highly revealing about the strength of our relationships.The key is the distance between couples, according to a study of 1,100 people.Partners who sleep less than an inch apart are far more likely to be happy together than those maintaining a gap wider than 30 inches, the researchers found.
The happiest couples: Partners who sleep face to face while touching were found to be 100% satisfied in their relationships

The happiest couples: Partners who sleep face to face while touching were found to be 100% satisfied in their relationships

Results: Couple who sleep while touching were found to be much happier than those who don't make any contact while sleeping

Results: Couple who sleep while touching were found to be much happier than those who don't make any contact while sleeping.

And couples who spend the night making physical contact are happier than those who do not touch. 

The research, published today at the Edinburgh International Science Festival, expands on work by psychiatrist Samuel Dunkell.He found people who lie curled up in the ‘full foetal’ position are likely to be indecisive, anxious and sensitive to criticism.

Those who sleep in a ‘semi-foetal’ position, with their knees drawn up, are conciliatory, amenable to compromise, and unlikely to take extreme stances, he said.
People who sleep in the ‘royal’ position – flat on their back – tend to be confident, open, expansive, and sensation-seeking.

And those who lie ‘prone’ on their face show a tendency for rigidity and perfectionism.

The study found that 42 per cent of couples sleep back to back, 31 per cent face the same direction and just 4 per cent face one another. 

Around 34 per cent sleep touching and 12 per cent spend the night less than an inch apart, while 2 per cent are separated by more than 30 inches.

Of those who fall asleep touching, couples tend to be happier if they are face-to-face than if they ‘spoon’ their partners, facing the same direction, or if they face in opposite directions.
Revealing: Couples who sleep less than an inch apart are happier than those that have a wider gap between them when they sleep

Revealing: Couples who sleep less than an inch apart are happier than those that have a wider gap between them when they sleep.Of those who do not touch, the largest number of happy couples face the same direction – above those who sleep back to back or facing each other.

University of Hertfordshire  psychologist Professor Richard Wiseman, who led the study, said: ‘Ninety four per cent of couples who spent the night in contact with one another were happy with their relationship, compared to just 68 per cent of those that didn’t touch.‘This is the first survey to examine couples’ sleeping positions, and the results allow people to gain an insight into someone’s personality and relationship.’ 

The study found 86 per cent of couples who slept less than an inch apart felt happy in their relationship, compared with 66 per cent of those who slept more than 30 inches apart.The latest results are part  of Professor Wiseman’s wider research on sleep and dreaming. He is using Dr Dunkell’s ideas to examine the ways people relate to each other in their sleep. His initial findings suggest that people who sleep very close to their partners are more likely to be extroverts.He has written a book, Night School, about his work.
Professor Wiseman said: ‘Thirty four per cent of people said they slept touching, but this rose to 45 per cent among extroverts.’

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Friday, April 11, 2014

How to Rock a Blazer

Pretty blazer and jeans

If there's one garment that can instantly spruce up any look, it's a chic and sophisticated blazer. A perfectly tailored blazer is a year-round wardrobe essential and there are a number of ways to wear this piece in sleek and stylish ways. Whether you want a business look or one that's cool, trendy and fit for a night out, use a blazer to add spice to your outfit in all the right ways.

Polish Up Basics
Rock a blazer with skinny jeans and a vintage T-shirt for a look that's casual with a modern twist. Distressed denim creates a stylish contrast to the serious feel of a structured blazer. A simple, slouchy, semi-sheer white T-shirt is a great pairing to a crisp blazer as well, as are feminine blouses. Tan ankle boots, black ballet flats or leopard print high heels are all fab footwear to sport when rocking this look. A pair of simple stud earrings or a long gold chain offers just the right amount of glitz. Top this look off with an ever-cool fedora to complement the laid-back vibe.

The Perfect Print
A printed blazer is versatile, stylish and just the ticket to a chic and sophisticated ensemble. Leopard print is a timeless pattern that looks fabulous atop a sleek blazer. Pair this piece with black skinny jeans and a silk camisole or throw one on top of a form-fitting black dress. A floral blazer is another versatile pattern for a blazer. Perfect for any fuzzy weather, pair a floral blazer with silk shorts and a tank top for a look that's not only fashionable, but totally season-appropriate as well. Wedge heels or high-heeled sandals seal the deal.

Dressed Down Dresses
The quickest way to tone down the flashiness of a fitted dress is to add a sleek blazer for more coverage. Not only does this put a classy spin on a sultry silhouette, but adding a blazer makes a wide variety of dresses appropriate for many occasions. Whether it's a sequined number you're working with, a printed sheath or a sexy bandage dress - layering a blazer on top of a fitted dress guarantees a chic and sophisticated way to sport this head-turning look. Simply add a pair of high-heeled sandals in a neutral hue to complete the look. For a bohemian chic feel, opt for an oversized menswear-inspired blazer atop a flowing maxi dress.

Suits You Well
When you're rocking a blazer as part of a suit, there are ways to spruce it up to make the entire look less severe. For instance, add an embellished brooch to a blazer pocket for an extra dose of glitz. You may also add a luxe printed silk scarf to break up a monochromatic look. The addition of a statement necklace can do wonders for a stuffy blazer, so add glamorous pieces to bring out the fun factor of this spiffy garment.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

When Everything Falls Apart.....................

I’m a 26-year-old woman in the last room at the end of the hall before the other junction that heads to the main road. Always be thankful because there is always, always, always something to be thankful for and I must wake up each day thankful for my life, because someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.Truth be told, happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them.  Imagine all the wondrous things your mind might embrace if it weren’t wrapped so tightly around your struggles.  Always look at what you have, instead of what you have lost.  Because it’s not what the world takes away from you that counts; it’s what you do with what you have left.
Here are a few reminders to help motivate you when you need it most:
Pain is part of growing.
Sometimes life closes doors because it’s time to move forward.  And that’s a good thing because we often won’t move unless circumstances force us to.  When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose.  Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you.  Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing.  Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there.  Good things take time.  Stay patient and stay positive.  Everything is going to come together; maybe not immediately, but eventually.Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you.  When you roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds help you grow.

Everything in life is temporary.Every time it rains, it stops raining.  Every time you get hurt, you heal.  After darkness there is always light – you are reminded of this every morning, but still you often forget, and instead choose to believe that the night will last forever.  It won’t.  Nothing lasts forever.So if things are good right now, enjoy it.  It won’t last forever.  If things are bad, don’t worry because it won’t last forever either.  Just because life isn’t easy at the moment, doesn’t mean you can’t laugh.  Just because something is bothering you, doesn’t mean you can’t smile.  Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending.  You get a second chance, every second.  You just have to take it and make the best of it.   

Worrying and complaining changes nothing.
Those who complain the most, accomplish the least.  It’s always better to attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed.  It’s not over if you’ve lost; it’s over when you do nothing but complain about it.  If you believe in something, keep trying.  Don’t let the shadows of the past darken the doorstep of your future.  Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any brighter.  Take action instead.  Let what you’ve learned improve how you live.  Make a change and never look back.
And regardless of what happens in the long run, remember that true happiness begins to arrive only when you stop complaining about your problems and you start being grateful for all the problems you don’t have.

Your scars are symbols of your strength.
Don’t ever be ashamed of the scars life has left you with.  A scar means the hurt is over and the wound is closed.  It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward.  A scar is the tattoo of a triumph to be proud of.  Don’t allow your scars to hold you hostage.  Don’t allow them to make you live your life in fear.  You can’t make the scars in your life disappear, but you can change the way you see them.  You can start seeing your scars as a sign of strength and not pain.
Rumi once said, “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most powerful characters in this great world are seared with scars.  See your scars as a sign of “YES!  I MADE IT!  I survived and I have my scars to prove it!  And now I have a chance to grow even stronger.”

Every little struggle is a step forward.
In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it.  So if you’re going to try, put in the time and go all the way.  Otherwise, there’s no point in starting.  This could mean losing stability and comfort for a while, and maybe even your mind on occasion.  It could mean not eating what, or sleeping where, you’re used to, for weeks on end.  It could mean stretching your comfort zone so thin it gives you a nonstop case of the chills.  It could mean sacrificing relationships and all that’s familiar.  It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers.  It could mean lots of time alone in solitude.  Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible.  It gives you the space you need.  Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it.And if you want it, you’ll do it, despite failure and rejection and the odds.  And every step will feel better than anything else you can imagine.  You will realize that the struggle is not found on the path, it is the path.  And it’s worth it.  So if you’re going to try, go all the way.  There’s no better feeling in the world… there’s no better feeling than knowing what it means to be ALIVE.

Other people’s negativity is not your problem.
Be positive when negativity surrounds you.  Smile when others try to bring you down.  It’s an easy way to maintain your enthusiasm and focus.  When other people treat you poorly, keep being you.  Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are.  You can’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you.  They do things because of them.
Above all, don’t ever change just to impress someone who says you’re not good enough.  Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a brighter future.  People are going to talk regardless of what you do or how well you do it.  So worry about yourself before you worry about what others think.  If you believe strongly in something, don’t be afraid to fight for it.  Great strength comes from overcoming what others think is impossible.All jokes aside, your life only comes around once.  This is IT.  So do what makes you happy and be with whoever makes you smile, often.

What’s meant to be will eventually, BE.
True strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead.  There are blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you have to be willing to open your heart and mind to see them.  You can’t force things to happen.  You can only drive yourself crazy trying.  At some point you have to let go and let what’s meant to be, BE.
In the end, loving your life is about trusting your intuition, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning through experience.  It’s a long-term journey.  You have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting every step of the way.  Laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds.  You might not end up exactly where you intended to go, but you will eventually arrive precisely where you need to be. 

The best thing you can do is to keep going.
Don’t be afraid to get back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.  Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart.  Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.  There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong.  And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t.  When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.  Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.
Yes, life is tough, but you are tougher.  Find the strength to laugh every day.  Find the courage to feel different, yet beautiful.  Find it in your heart to make others smile too.  Don’t stress over things you can’t change.  Live simply.  Love generously.  Speak truthfully.  Work diligently.  And even if you fall short, keep going.  Keep growing.
Awake every morning and do your best to follow this daily TO-DO list:
  1. Think positively.
  2. Eat healthy.
  3. Exercise today.
  4. Worry less.
  5. Work hard.
  6. Laugh often.
  7. Sleep well.

The floor is yours…

What helps you stay motivated when you’re struggling?  What’s something positive you try to keep in mind when everything seems to be going wrong?  Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.

Little by little I am gaining grounds of life enthusiasm.

Thursday, April 3, 2014


1.Compassion:The first step to forgiveness is compassion. Pain is not created in a vacuum. Aim to understand how someone’s ignorance or dysfunction drove them to do something that caused so much pain. You’re not excusing it or justifying it, just understanding. Challenge yourself to empathize with the other person’s worst suffering and accept them in spite of it. It will help you better understand the suffering which was placed onto you.

2.Separation: The second step to forgiveness is separation. Separate the person’s actions from their humanity. Understand that what they did was merely a faulty strategy to meet their own emotional needs. Their needs are like yours and mine. The way they went about meeting them was not. They have hurt and have suffered injustices as well.

3.Acceptance:The third step to forgiveness is acceptance. The transgression is a permanent part of you. You can choose to learn from it and become a better person, or you can hold on to it and let it drag you down for the rest of your life. Channel the pain into progress, something positive, something beautiful. Some of the world’s most beautiful art and greatest achievements were borne out of the worst suffering and injustice. Become a conduit and transform pain. This will allow you to become grateful for the experience which hurt you.The caveat to forgiveness is to not forget.And for those rare deeds which are unforgivable: mediate, pray to God, take them to the cross. cease to see the separateness, and let them dissipate in the waves.