Thursday, November 7, 2019

Simply Allow

Here are10, because there are way too many things people won’t swallow.

Attraction matters. And attractive people get more attention. This means those who are naturally blessed and eat right and stay active and take care of themselves tend to be more attractive. And that’s not fat shaming. It’s fact.


Stereotypes exist because they’re based on traits of specific groups of people. I’m not going to elaborate on this one, because it gets me moderated.


Sex matters. Stop having sex with your partner and it will hurt your relationship. Also, it’s not cool to use sex as a weapon. Stop doing it.


Too many parents are not preparing their children for real life and it’s the rest of us who are going to have to suffer through it. Ugh. Other people’s kids.


Most of us are just average. And that means you’re not special. And neither are your kids. Stop telling them they are. See number four.


Men are better at some things than women, just as women are better at other things. Guess what, men and women are not equal and women are not the future. Men AND women are the future. Stop being so damn sexist.


The government tends to fuck things up just about every time they get involved. Stop thinking the government will fix things. They don’t. They create chaos to distract people from what’s really going on.


Just because someone is wearing a white coat and has an MD after their name, does not mean they know exactly what they’re doing. Don’t blindly trust anyone. Even Cs get degrees.


Your strong opinion doesn’t make you right. It just makes you opinionated. Yeah, I’m talking to you.


Just because you live in a ritzy zip code, just because you attended a prestigious university, just because your bank account has more zeroes after the one, it doesn’t make you better than anyone else. Your shit still stinks


Tuesday, September 17, 2019

Selflessness

The most common mistake is choosing a taker instead of a giver.
A taker is someone who absorbs energy, favors, love, compliments, and attention from other people, but doesn’t return these gifts.

Givers take pleasure in giving of themselves to make others happy.

In high school, he dated a girl who was a taker. She was hilarious and fun a lot of the time, but she constantly wanted things and was always asking me to drive her here and there, or help her fix her car, or burn her a CD, help her move, help her study, and so on.
As a giver, he was happy to give and give and give. But eventually he noticed that, despite giving constantly to try to make her happy, she rarely returned such gestures. Eventually they broke up.

Shortly thereafter, he started dating another girl. Immediately he noticed that she was so much easier to be around. She also gave him the love, affection, words of affirmation, and quality time that he so desired.
But it wasn’t until a year and a half into their relationship that he realized exactly why the new girlfriend was so incredible.

She called him one day to ask for a pick up from the mechanic’s. Her car had broken down and she wasn’t able to fix it on her own, so she’d hobbled it into the auto shop and, after being told there would be a four hour wait, decided to call him and ask for a ride.
What he realized was that, after a year and a half of dating, this was the FIRST TIME she’d asked him to do ANYTHING for her (she might be a little extreme in her independence.

Don’t hold everyone to this standard).
They’ve now been together for eight years and married for five. Every day they have a great time because they spend their time giving to each other, working to solve each others’ needs.

So determine to be a giver and find a giver. By giving to each other, you’ll both be fulfilled through christ Jesus.

Wednesday, July 24, 2019

Reigning from Couplelands II

He’s met this phenomenal woman and everything seems perfect. They have sex regularly, he picks up the tab and gets her gifts regularly, she surprises him with tokens and gets him tickets to the baseball game (his favourite team is playing) the two of them take things to the next level and get engaged/married. They move in and start sharing a life together. Everything is new and exciting and they're in complete disbelief that they've married the love of their life! They start gym together and get a dog, post pictures of their amazing life on facebook.

They document every trip they take, every vacation, every date. They even update their relationship status on FB to “x & y are married” they receive hundreds of likes on pictures and tons of congratulatory comments on the change of status “ omg you two are perfect” “wow, couple goals”

Some time goes by, she gets pregnant, they start arguing about finances. He thinks that she spends too much on herself and contribute less to groceries and Bills. She thinks that he spends too much on new clothes, video games and eating out. Bills stack up, the dogs water bowl has been empty for days and one complains that they are always the one that refills it even though it's really not their dog. Laundry is never done because both parties are tired from work and one is pregnant.

Two kids later - she stops working to take care of the kids. Crayons and toys are all over the floor, the dog needs to be fed and desperately needs a walk, wet laundry has been sitting in the machine for two days, Bill's keep coming in, husband is busy at work and not at home until 8pm, he is tired when he gets home so all the pressure is on her to take care of the kids and household responsibilities.

Their sex life is practically non existant, there is just not enough hours in the day for intimacy. She pulls away from him and both parties feel neglected. They argue over everything and agree on practically nothing anymore.

Life has changed and they both wonder how they've gotten to this place of such unhappiness. Life is no longer fun, everything feels like a task, even coming home. They no longer talk, he keeps things bottled up inside and she cries in the shower. What complete strangers they've become. Responsibilities and everyday life has become too much. He starts noticing and complimenting his female co worker and they have long discussions about his problems at home over lunch. They form an emotional connection, something that hes lost with wife. He almost thinks of having an affair but he knows that it would ruin whatever is left of his marriage but “How would she find out ?”

To be continued...