Monday, October 20, 2014

Reblogged Article.


As the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single (who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that are in the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God created us to be fruitful.

As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )

I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise themselves when society dictates that it is okay to “shack up”,” have PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all the while having the “I don’t need a man mentality”?

I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have substance and morals? I promise you it is getting harder and harder for us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and building success together even if we have to struggle.

I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.

I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God has ordained for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away from the friend zone and sending mixed signals. It is a lesson I learned the hard way.

“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is “timing”. It waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.”

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  1. I love this Article on various level Twinnie.. I mean it is so deep. I as one have never really feared loneliness though, I have a fairly optimistic believe that there is someone for everyone regardless of the issues of life. So just keep being the beautiful you that you are Ritah, and someday soon Bubba, that Boaz of your dreams will just drive by. To all singles like me who will read this, (Ritah kindly permit me to add that) Its important that we first love ourselves before another can love us, cause the most indispensable kind of love is SELF LOVE. Cheers. XX

    1. Thanks a lot Twinnie. So longer as Self Love doesn't turn into Vanity. You know how those two roll. You can't give what you don't have. So you got a huge point over there. Always a pleasure to read from my brother from the other part of the world.

    2. E-hugs. Hope you are good tweenie? Just said to show some brotherly love.. **winks