Socialising Better

When with your friends/partner don’t fiddle around with your phone. Give them your “energy” and not just presence.

If you are invited to someone’s place always take something along. Could be as simple as a bottle of wine or as elaborate as a home made cake.

Say thank you, please and sorry when needed. Nothing wrong in being polite.

Help someone with the door if they have their hands full when entering a mall, shop, restaurant etc.

When someone asks you for stock/financial advice tell them you don’t know better than them! Avoid stock tips, you can ruin someone’s life.

When someone is talking, really listen. Look into their eyes time to time and nod. Does not matter if it’s a guy or a girl

Give credit where credit is due. Take responsibility if things don’t work out 

Blessings 

Human Behavoir

A person has the habit of banging his fist on the table hard when he is angry.

But he doesn’t do that when there is flimsy glass table in front of him.

A person has the habit of throwing whatever is there in his hand when he is angry.

But he may not do that when there is a $1500 brand new phone in his hand.

A person has the habit of kicking something in front of him when he is angry,

But he may not do that when there is thorn bush in front of him.

So if you notice the common-thing here,

When a person is angry— most of the times— he subconsciously knows how to show it without hurting himself.

The extension of this behaviour is,

You show anger only on people whom you think are not stronger than you and who don’t have the power to harm you back.

For example:

When a server is pouring you water and it spills on your shirt, you will shout at him. But, when your boss is passing you coffee and it spills on your shirt, you might not shout. You may even smile ‘It’s okay.’

You will think twice before you show anger on someone who is more powerful than you.

But with people whom you think are lower than you or whom you take for granted, you show it effortlessly. Because you are clearly aware, they can’t hit back at you or that they will come back to you irrespective of whatever you say during anger.

Aging Softly

I’ll soon be 67 and will share my thoughts on your question. Aging is inevitable if we keep having birthdays and, as for me, I like that I keep having birthdays. I recognize that my health could decline at some point and I may no longer look forward to more birthdays but until then…

Maintain a positive attitude. I’m not talking about a false glibness but a real gratitude for how far your body has taken you. Appreciate your body. Be really good to it. Treat it as your most precious asset as it’s the only one you’re going to get.

Take your body for regular walks. Appreciate what your eyes can see, your nose can smell, and your ears can hear. Wonder at the sun on your face or its warmth on your back. Watch the wind in the trees, listen for the sound of children’s laughter.

Feed your body good food. Get rid of the junk food in your house. If you want brownies make them from scratch. Once you get used to making things for yourself you’ll be disgusted by the taste of preservatives and additives in prepackaged food. Your digestive system, your heart and circulatory system will love you for it so much that you will be able to tell the difference.

Spend lots of time with your family, letting them know how much you love them. One of you won’t be around before you’re ready for it.

Cultivate your friends. Any old ones are always great for walks down memory lane including all the stupid things you’ve done. Laughter is such wonderful medicine. Look for opportunities to make new ones. Sit somewhere different in places you frequent Friend someone on Facebook and seek opportunities to meet in the real world—coffee in the morning or for a drink in the evening. Don’t be fearful of going places alone. One of my best friends right now is someone I met four years ago sitting next to them at a bar where I’d gone for a glass of wine and to people watch.

Read—the news, a novel, a joke that you want to remember to tell someone. Reading takes you to places you’ve never been before. If you don’t like one book, try another. Maybe you’ll like biographies, history, suspense, romance, or science fiction. Reading exercises your brain and gives you topics and/or information to share with your family and friends. It will make you interested and interesting.

Find a hobby that completely engrosses you. I think I’ve found a hobby in trying out different hobbies. I like some more than others.

Involve your body in life while accepting that it won’t always do what it used to be able to. The possibilities are endless. As we age our bodies begin to impose some limitations on us, but giving in and sitting on the couch while it’s still able to do so much is tragic.